Is it insecurity or reality ?

Is it insecurity or reality ?

Is it true that when one person is at his or her prime time will

received all the attention and be Se-rounded by everyone ?

But what happens when this people are on their down side ?

Will they still have this attentions ?

Will they still have this hi bye friends around them ?

Very often we will meet new individuals and expand our network

however this individuals might not be the one who will brave

through tide and waves with you.

So, how would we determine whether how true is it 

as far as this treatment is concern is in fact a

reality and not the feeling of in-security ?

I'm not saying that there will not be any true friends or perhaps

someone who will stand with us when we are encountering

downfall or slowdown or anything but in today's

world where we are showered with lots

of material and indecent proposals are we still

confident that things won't change ?

Personally I've encountered this sort of treatments 

and honestly instead of asking sympathy from these lots

I would choose to be alone.

The only group of people who will stand with

us in regards of any good or worst situations 

will be............

"OUR FAMILY MEMBERS" 

Are we dependent or independent ?

Are we dependent or independent ?

The correct message from President John Fitzgerald Kennedy are suppose to be

" Ask not what your country can do for you but what can you do for your country"

When we really put our thoughts into this message we will eventually

discover something more then what this great person is trying to say.

Very often we blame on something or someone for not completing certain mission or

work or certain responsibility assigned to us.

Are we not to certain level which we abused some of the things and people

around us in order for us to achieved or attained something ?

But how often do we ask ourself instead of expecting something or favours from others

which actually would not need that but instead we can do something for this others.

Well sometimes is rather hard to depict as in certain situation we are not able

to do so however we could still offer something else instead for instance, if

we could not assist in term of monetary we could offer something else.

Most of the time we would take for granted and neglects all this things 

which we could do but choose not to.

Very often when some people or individuals have this capabilities to do so

but choose not to compares with those who wanted to do but without

this capabilities.

I sincerely hope one day, one fine day ! I could do both be it monetary

or physical assistance to others which I felt is more meaningful.

Diversification in whatever we do.......

DIVERSIFICATION !

Very often we will come across this term especially in the area of 

doing business or entrepreneurship.

But....

Have we ever thought that our mind can be also diversify in 

our own way ?

Our brain is such a wonderful part of our body but yet we 

do not realize the potential of what we could do

or how can we expand or maybe perhaps

discover some ability which scientist can't be explained.  

I've always wonder whether we could do so as our brain 

basically have the capacity or rooms to store so much

of data and memories which enable us to carry

out our work and think properly. Not to mention the ability

of problem solving and creativity mindset.

If only we could diversify our mind to do something

extra which we do not probably think of or

maybe the capability to achieve.

How I wish I could do that and one thing I must stress here

is that having the diversification of my mind is nothing

compares to multi tasking or whatsoever.

Life. What do we look for and can we see it coming ?

Life. What do we look for and can we see it coming ?

Most of the time we would ask ourselves lots of questions pertaining or in regards

to this issues.

We often thinks that sometimes its predestined that our life is in such 

manner and therefore we should accept as it is and live with it.

But what really matters to us as far as our own life is 

concern is whether there is any possibility for us to change

or re-route it to our expectation or perhaps 

something we would want it to be ?

Well, the answer is with us all this while. 

Some individuals can't choose what they want to be and how to lead their life's

but do you think we can ?

Senator Robert Kennedy perhaps is someone who we could look upon

on how he tackles such issue from assisting his brother for the presidency

campaign to his own presidency campaign which I think is not what he

really wants but was told to lead such life none other then his father 

Joe Kennedy.

Not all of us are born to such majestic and yet powerful family that leaves us 

no choice to choose our own way of doing things we like in our own way.

So, 

We could as a matter of fact can make this changes to what we have now 

to suits us more so that we can have a meaning life without have to 

worry of so many things to take care of.

Think carefully and think deeply on this topic and perhaps

in no time we could find ourselves answers to our 

own questions.

Descendent of the Dragon.....

Indeed is an interesting topic to write as most Chinese around the world 

believes that we are the descendent of the Dragon.

Dragons are very closely related to all the Chinese as we believes

the dragon brings not only health but wealth.

Those who are born under the dragon zodiac sign of the Chinese believes that

the child will one day grow to someone who are not only intelligent but

would be able to be a leader as compare to Capricorn.

If we were to trace back the ancient Chinese history which is like

some 5000 years back we would discover lots of unknown and untold

stories about our culture, believes, literatures and many many more

not to left out also some of the precious artefacts and scroll which 

are in no value to put for.

As a Chinese and the descendent of the dragon I would  probably say

that I'm proud as we are rich with cultures and literatures.

I was not really into an in depth study or research few years back on this 

topic as at that time I would say that it would not bring any benefits to 

what I'm currently doing but it proofs that I'm wrong as when I really

go into this topic in a more detail manner I discovered something 

I was not told by my parents nor my grandparents.

This something which I'm refering to is called

"IDENTITY"

  

Confused and confusing....

Sometimes we tend to do things that we do not know why and how ?

Most of the time we are basically in a confused stake of mind and at times we wondered around

like a lost soul searching for its body and most of this actions or reactions will probably

make us more confusing.

But what really confused about this things is that we do not mind doing it 

and keep on repeating it until time comes when we start to ask ourselves questions.

Why I'm doing this ? How come I'm here instead of there ? When does this happen ?

Well is not wrong at times being confused even-tough we do think

rationally and at the same time in the clear mind stake.

But what really matters the most is not to allow this confuse stake to become more

confusing whereby it by complicate certain matters.

At times I don't know how to differentiate between whether I'm confused or

I just don't understand.

I've many times while driving alone but not sleepy trying to reach my destination

and my mind have lots of pictures running and running in front of me which 

I'm still driving and of course still focusing on the road however it has been 

quite unrealized that while having this pictures running suddenly I've 

reach my destination and the funny thing is that I will ask myself

How come I've reached already ? and I don't quite remember the roads I took

that leads me to my destination.

How about this ? Funny right ?

That shows how powerful our mind is even-tough we are focusing on something

we could still do other stuff without realizing that we are doing it.

and 

This is called unrealized  multi tasking  mode !!!!!  

Soul mate..

Soul mate. Two little words, one big concept.

A believe that someone, somewhere, is holding the key to your heart and 

your dream. All you have to do is find them.

So, where is this person ?

" People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. 

But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back,

the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, 

because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.

A soul mate's purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit,

show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can 

get in, make you so out of control that you have to transform yourself and your life".

Once, a long, long time ago, all humans had four legs and two heads.

And then the gods threw down a thunderbolts and split everyone into two.

Each half then had two legs and one head. 

But the separation left both sides with a desperate yearning to be

united.

Because they each shared the same soul  and ever since then,

all people spend their lives searching for the other half of their soul.

HOW ABOUT YOU ? 

A walk down memory lane......

During some time when we are not doing anything at all would you be thinking

and would you somehow recalls the years of your childhood or teenagers years

or perhaps some events which are worth for you to recall just

to refresh back those memories.

Many of us would have this or probably would think of this as when we are free

from the need of doing those donkey works which is rather routine

in our life on the daily basis.

Come to think back when I recall this moments, it's simply wonderful

and somehow gives me a sense of peace during this recall moments.

For instance, during childhood where we are not bond to anything or responsibilities

as we are facing right now and would you not agree with me that this 

somehow will reduce your stress level and thus gives you a room 

to breath by doing so.

Very often I would recall back many things to remind myself that how lucky I'm 

to be still around considering some of the moments which are rather life taking

or hardship where we would not imagine.

Its good to sometimes recall back some past events so that we could improve and 

and rectify probably some of the mistakes we've done in the past and so that

it would not repeat again in the future.

There's a phrase saying " Making a mistake is not a sin however making this 

mistakes without learning from it will be a sin"

What can I say any more ? Its surely well said and I totally agree with this statement

as we are just a normal human being and deem to do mistakes at

times even we don't realize or do it on purpose.

So, conclusion is whenever we have time please try to recall and take a trip down memory

lane during our free time to constantly remind us some of the past events to enable

us to have a new and more fruitful event to come.

A best friend indeed when you need

Friends ? Best Buddies ? Drinking Buddies ?

Which are this above or perhaps not mention are the correct ones to describe most of
the so called friends or people around you ?

Do you think we should have expectation from our friends or best buddies ?

In life as we grow we will encounter with a lot of individuals be it whether they are special
or not and eventually this people will turn into our friends or perhaps just merely acquittance.

What I'm trying to point out over here is whenever you are in need of help in any kind, Who
would you turn to and will this person that you approach would lent a hand to you
to solve your problems or at least treat you out for a drink and listens to your
grievances ?

Many times we would say that we have lots and lots of friend without realizing
who of they and whether this people actually remembers us or not ?

Well at times when we come to think back, how often would we take the opportunity
or trouble to contact, get in touch and perhaps a just a courtesy of asking
how are you doing via the email ?

Personally I categorised myself as a quite heartless person before as I never bothered to
return calls, return greeting cards, return birthday wishes and etc.

But recently I've realize that I'm wrong and has take up the challenge to change
and be more sensitive in regards to this issue.

HOW ABOUT YOU  ?

Why only during Mother's Day ?

Mother's Day !

I would probably put this event as a gimmick of some clever business individuals to 

garner in more revenue for their business. During this day who will probably benefit 

from it ? Let's see, the eateries, the souvenir shops, florist, boutique's and

many many more.

Lots of questions running in my mind on mother's day. Why only remembers your mom

during this day and only reward her during this day ?

When comes to mothers day most of this so called filial children will tend to 

pretend they remember their mom and etc.

I'm not referring to the majority but let us look at this in a different manner 

or angle. I would love to see some response or perhaps create some

awareness by posting some of this following questions :

1) How often do you say I love you to your mom ?

2) Do you basically share most of your stuff with her ?

3) We often keep our GF or BF photo in our wallet how about 

keeping your mom's picture ? Do u do that ?

4) Is it by remembering mother's day will indicate that you care ?

5) How often do you call your mom ? ( if not staying together)

I love my mom very much and it does not matter on which day as to me

everyday is mothers day. If any of you had followed on my recent writings,

you will realize that I have at least two topic which I've mention about my mom

who is not just my mom but a mentor and a best friend to me

and most importantly I do carry my moms photo with me everyday 

and everywhere I go.

To me whoever only remembers of their mom during this day and

 celebrates mother's day are purely  Hippocratic individuals and honestly my 

respect for this people are basically NIL !

Let us not forget that eventough there is special day dedicated to respective figures 

please remember that this day means nothing but for commercialization purposes

and if you are really sincere in honouring your mom please treat every day is

MOTHER'S DAY !!!

     

What will be your defination of enough ?

Well this is indeed a very interesting topic to lot of people but stills 

consider a taboo to a lot of us Asians however things does change somehow rather.

Is there any word such as enough ? Well it will solely depends on every individuals need,

desire and urge.

One thing for sure is that some people will take sex as just a routine work e.g. eating and working 

and bla bla bla !! 

To me having sex is just a good reason for a couple to build a stronger bonding

provided is not just for the sake of having it. What I meant is towards those 

who are dating or perhaps those who are already marriage.

Having regular sex is good for your health indeed as it will enhance your chances

of not getting heart disease and also something like an anti ageing agent.

Personally I'm quite an active person as far as sexual activity is concern but 

what is important here is that you will never fail to be attracted to the same person  

again every time when you make love to her and this makes it so special.

It is the effort of willing to try everything new and having spontaneous events

to enhance the love making session. 

So many articles and people who I know commit extra marital affairs or I would 

say cheating on their spouses be it whether the husband or the wife.

It must be in a mutual understanding of each and others needs in order to create

new height in ones love making session other then the foreplay and the fantasy

thingy stuff. 

I believe there are no secret formulas or any abracadabra merlin thingy 

to enhance this however if both can open themselves and talk it out

on what is in their mind so that the other person can work out something 

or perhaps both can work out something special to enhance or probably

taking their intimate session to a different dimension.

Guys will be guys as most of the time they will think about sex and if possible

they would want to have it like taking medicine 3 times a day everyday.

Of course like most bastards we love to wondered around or scout around

for new ports but this wont happen I guess if a couple's relationship

is strong enough and not inclusive of those who are singles.

I would say my defination is never enough when comes to sex and 

HOW ABOUT YOU ?

Guilty as it is..........

Guilty ? It is a rather serious word right ? 

How often do we feel guilty for anything ? How about when times when you heard from 

someone of their problems and at that point you can't do anything at all but

just be able to lend an ear for him or her and just sit down there doing nothing but listens.

At times I wonder that if only we could do more so to speak to help out so that 

this feeling of guilty is not that hard slapping on us.

Very often we hear that if money can solve a problem or any problems it would not 

be a problem but the issue is, is it really that money can solve all the problems

that we are facing ?

Very often I'm at such situation where I listens and can't even do anything to help

and this feeling is not funny and happy at all perhaps a noble cause would 

not be that noble any more however come to think of at least we are able

to listen to their experiences and problems that they are facing

to enable them to let it out from them so that they might felt better.

The least we could at that point.

How I wish I could do something when I'm in such situation knowing

that the particular person whom I'm with feel lots better and happy

to have things sorted out.

If only I could !

Silly School with silly rules....... what a shame.

Silly School with Silly rules..........

It is to my knowledge that the most recent kinapping incedent case has somehow shows the need of the schools to tighten their securities measures to ensure that childrens registered under their respective schools or learning institution are given the extra measures to ensure of their safety

while in the school compound / area.

But what happens in Sri KDU in Kota Damansara is rather extreme and I would say silly when comes to implement this measures.

Parents are resricted to pick up their kids eventough they are there personally and was told to drive their cars / vehicle with stickers only or otherwise they (the school) would not release. Is this how it should be done ? What had happen to our society now ? Its so silly to have such rules.

Why there are no proper notifications or proper planning before executing such rules that creates so much of this inconvenience to other people especially to their students and their parents. Are they out of their mind ? How come there is no proper meeting with the parents first before such regulations are implemented.

I do hope the star paper who I deem the papers that cares would take this issue and do a proper study check to ensure that there should be a proper way we could adopt to ensure that a win win situation is obtained.

Its enough already with all this funny stuff which demonstrates the low mentality of our fellow countrymen. We should progress and be wise enough to ensure the country would not be any laughing stock to the others.

PLEASE STOP COVERING YOUR ASS WITH SUCH SILLY MOVES !!!!

Challenges ahead......

Challenge is something that we face or encounter everyday. Have we ever wonder

why and when this happen ? Why us ?

Well some of us might be lucky enough to have everything pre-plan for us courtesy from

our parents and therefore they will encounter less of this challenges or obstacles in their

life's

Its indeed good sometimes to encounter this challenges as it will lead us to be 

better in term of our thinking and well being.

Not many people have this privileges to have pre-plan scheme planned for them

therefore these group of people are basically force to mature at an early age

and prepares them to face the real world.

But what if there are just to many of this obstacles running around you and bothers you ?

Will you avoid ? or choose to face this and overcome this one by one. 

It is our choice to avoid but only for a while of peace for doing so, why not we choose to 

face it and share some of this with people around us be it seeking their help or 

advise to solve this once and for all.

Finally, all this will only lead us to be a better person and create value for us in the future 

coming. There are no easy road ahead for everyone is just that whether we want to walk 

this road the easy way or the hard way but anyway that we walk will determine

where we will be at the end ! 

Is it being Nobel or Cruel ?

Came across this news even before it was published in today's star newspaper about the cross breed

of the American Pitbull on causing the death of the 74 year jogger.

Honestly I'm not really an animal lover however I do strongly believe that equality should

be given consideration even tough they are just a pet or we would called a domestic animal.

Given the fact that this cross breed are rather aggressive and very territorial we should always

take into consideration of the safety measures to avoid unwanted events such like this to happen.

Who are the one to be blame or at fault ? Is it the dog or the owner ?  Well this is the issue

of either being Nobel and Cruel.

As far as the dog is concern I will put it as Nobel as the dog is only performing 

its duty to protect its territory and the property of its owner and due to the fact

of its nature and behaviour therefore its surely a good watch dog.

Most of the time the owner will neglect the well being of their pets by just doing the normal

routine stuff like feeding them. Its important that the owner should spend more time with

them as dogs too have emotional needs.

No doubt I'm not a real animal lover however it is in my parents home that we have not only one

but three pet dogs as the house compound is rather huge and gives us the advantage to 

to have this pet dogs.

We have 2 dogs which is a cross breed between a terrier and mongrel and the other

one which is a pure Pugs as a play dog.

My mom is indeed a dog lover as she spends alot of time talking and playing with them. Its

to my knowledge recently when the dogs are ill and she is so worried that something

bad would happen to her pet dogs that even she is not well the dogs are still her priority.

It is only when you can commit to such responsibility before thinking of getting a pet dog

for whatever purposes and if you are not please never think of this. 

Dogs are well known as the "Men's Best Friend" and why they earn such nobel addressing ?

It is the owner who are kind and care enough to shower them with love that gains this domestic

animals the title.

It is indeed cruel to know that the dog have to be put to sleep

due to the negligence of its owner and the owner can 

just walk freely and thinking of nothing but getting another

one after this incident.

Well, is this being Nobel or Cruel ? I'll leave it up to you !

Loving you only........

Being in love and being love is something really wonderful to every couple.

There's no right or wrong in some of the silly stuff's we do when we are in love

but is only matters whether these silly stuff is worth doing or not ?

Something which I strongly believe when a couple who is in love will

tend to do things that they normally won't therefore the power of

love is so great that it can changes an individual rather instantly 

in term of their behaviour and of course their well being.

Loving a person is not about buying gifts only be it whether its economical

or expensive, its all about what that person meant to you and how 

important that person to you.

Most of what I encounter these days about couples is mostly all about 

gifts and I meant expensive ones. Is it bcos these are trends nowadays or

merely because of the change in the society manner.

Most of the guys today relatively compare to the opposite genders are getting

more and more romantic when comes to plan and impress the one 

that they are courting.

What I've believe so far in a working relationship is that, when you tend

to buy something for your companion why not think of something 

which monetary can't buy.

If I'm a women I would most probably touch by your effort of doing or 

creating something from your own bare hands which is probably

something I would categorize as customize made and it will

mean alot to me instead of just walking into a shopping mall and grab 

something from selves.

Try to impress your companion by doing lots of tiny miny stuff e.g. calling 

her to tell her that you miss her alot, anytime during the day just call 

to say I love you and many smaller stuff that you could probably think off.

What matters the most is the initiative to come out with something 

interesting rather just being lazy and finds the easy way.

At the end of the day ask yourself these questions;

How much do i love her  /  him?

Have I done enough for her  /  him?

Am I caring and tentative towards her / him ?

When you starts to ask these questions you will eventually find out whether

do you really loves that person or maybe you would realize 

that you can do better.

A real working relationship is all about 2 way communications and its not about

showering with gifts only...............

Mentoring your way

Why a mentor ? Who needs a mentor ? Who is the mentor ? 

perhaps this questions will less appear in our mind

but trust me it is indeed important for all of us to at least have one mentor in our life who is there to serve us, guide us and most importantly to share with us all his or hers

life experiences of theirs to enable us to learn and see what we could do to change

not only what we do or what we want but what we think eventually.

How many of us who are really lucky enough to have at least one mentor ? What i could 

say is that I'm indeed lucky to have not only one but 3 mentors all together.

My first mentor or I should say sifu teaches me not to be selfish however 

he is one of those selfish ones. I was once told by him that he would only teaches 

me 70% of what we knows and the remaining 30% will be on his 

safe keeping. Come to think of this way, he is right as he is trying to protect 

his interest so that he could maintain certain value so that I would

not superseed his position as my sifu.

My second mentor is the one who shows me the way in advertising and without

her I would not be where I'm in the advertising scene. What I really appreciate

from her is that you must understand the work from A - Z beside having 

the interest only in this industry and fair enough what she has taught me is what 

I've been practising all this years of course with some minor modification

to it to suit my nature and style.

My third mentor is someone not only teaches me on way of being an individual but

most importantly is everything that I do in regards of whether involved my work, 

my relationship, my well being as what she shows me is basically everything. 

This person whom I mention is none other then my very own mom. Not only

she is my mom but a mentor and most importantly she is also my best buddy.

She is the one who has been trying undyingly to show me and teaches me

alot of stuff whereby probably I could not think of especially during my mental 

blockage but what I really loves about this mentor is she is always there

for me whenever I need her and of course without rain or shine prepares 

to serve me with all her might.

What I do see and learn all this years is that having a mentor mentoring someone 

is something that we could not live without be it whether the mentor is your 

friends, your colleague, your companion, your senior, your siblings or perhaps 

your parents could make a different out of you.

Without a mentor you wont die or fail but you'll surely miss out a lot !

A very big thank you to all my mentors and without you guys where would I be

and who would I be now.

Unintention Gathering

Sometimes we wonder if there is any chances to meet up with friends or relatives without going through

the hassle of calling and try to arrange a meet up session taking into consideration of have to 

suits everyone timing and the venue and what sort of activities need to be organize or planned.

Well come to think off a wedding reception or a wedding 

banquet u might want to address it might be the good way

of making this happen.

I've attended a lot of wedding dinners and other official

and not official gatherings where the similarity of this 

events seems to be the same, where people who are not 

in contact for such some time are basically brought to gather

to have a huge but yet short gathering.

Was attending my girl's course mate's wedding yesterday and saw a lot of this faces whereby saying long time no see and etc etc. 

I guess having have to go through the hassle of arranging 

such gathering why not just attend a wedding reception

and let everyone gathered together not just celebrating the

event of union but also for a no hassle gathering

with friends and relative.